In wanting to support our loved ones we often offer “helpful advice.” “You should try this.” “Do it this way.” We mean well, we really do want to help, but often our “helpful advice” and our good intentions simply piss-off the other person. Bear and Butterfly In my book, Bear and Butterfly I examine…
Pessimism, the inclination to expect the worst, can not only make you a bummer at parties, it can keep you from having enough energy to even go to the party. A terrible spiral When everything around you seems to be going in the toilet, and you cannot see things changing, your body responds by powering-down.…
While a wonderful public spirited energy is manifesting in our nation, what is missing is a clear message. No one wants our school children to be at risk of being gunned-down at school, I think we can all agree on that. But when people take to the streets to get this message across, it is…
Your life is a reflection of your thinking. A cluttered mind results in a cluttered desk. (I see this all around me right now). If I reach a point where I cannot seem to put two ideas together I will stop and clear my desk of the clutter. If I do not clear my…
A victim is one who spends the greatest portion of their time living in their past. A victim defines themselves by their past; their experiences, their hurts (real and imagined) trying to come to grips with the question: why? As a victim, perhaps the greatest challenge is keeping the pain of the past alive. A…
Put a bunch of Bear Energy people together in one room and it is a beautiful thing; boisterous and physical to be sure, but still a beautiful thing. Now, put a group of Butterfly Energy people in one room it is also beautiful; chattery and touchy, yet still beautiful. Now, if you gather both the…
I have often made a point in these blogs that we are energy, each of us is energy. To underscore this idea and perhaps make it a little easier to make part of your life, here is another example of this fact; You walk into a room feeling just a little off, not necessarily…