Compromise seems to have gone the way of the dodo bird. As we revel in the silly-season of elections there seem to be few candidates, (or voters for that matter) who seem willing to hear what the other side is saying. Good ideas have no political party, no gender. As we sink deeper into the…
According to my good friend Terry Hall, the Stoic Medium, “Ghosts give sucky hugs.” This colorful phrase came about after his Father in Law made his transition. But what does this mean to you and me? Making the most of today Put simply we will all, one day, reach the end of our physical lives.…
Trees have so much to teach us, if we just stop and think about them. This time of year many of us are enjoying as the first bright colors of fall appear in the foliage. Soon we may be cursing the gift of leaves the trees have given us as we rake them up, but…
You are a light of the Universe if you see the world, the Universe, the Cosmos as the creation of The One. It doesn’t matter what name you use to refer to The One, in the end names do not matter. You are a light of the world if you see all creation as sacred…
In wanting to support our loved ones we often offer “helpful advice.” “You should try this.” “Do it this way.” We mean well, we really do want to help, but often our “helpful advice” and our good intentions simply piss-off the other person. Bear and Butterfly In my book, Bear and Butterfly I examine…
Pessimism, the inclination to expect the worst, can not only make you a bummer at parties, it can keep you from having enough energy to even go to the party. A terrible spiral When everything around you seems to be going in the toilet, and you cannot see things changing, your body responds by powering-down.…
While a wonderful public spirited energy is manifesting in our nation, what is missing is a clear message. No one wants our school children to be at risk of being gunned-down at school, I think we can all agree on that. But when people take to the streets to get this message across, it is…
Your life is a reflection of your thinking. A cluttered mind results in a cluttered desk. (I see this all around me right now). If I reach a point where I cannot seem to put two ideas together I will stop and clear my desk of the clutter. If I do not clear my…
A victim is one who spends the greatest portion of their time living in their past. A victim defines themselves by their past; their experiences, their hurts (real and imagined) trying to come to grips with the question: why? As a victim, perhaps the greatest challenge is keeping the pain of the past alive. A…
Put a bunch of Bear Energy people together in one room and it is a beautiful thing; boisterous and physical to be sure, but still a beautiful thing. Now, put a group of Butterfly Energy people in one room it is also beautiful; chattery and touchy, yet still beautiful. Now, if you gather both the…
I have often made a point in these blogs that we are energy, each of us is energy. To underscore this idea and perhaps make it a little easier to make part of your life, here is another example of this fact; You walk into a room feeling just a little off, not necessarily…
Talk is cheap, so they say, and it is true; words come easily and abundantly, the problem is no matter how many words we use we may not be communicating. This lack of communication is not simply because others are not listening, it is because they cannot hear us. In my book Bear and Butterfly…
I am sitting outside a Starbucks in Kunatachi, Japan right now. All around me are the famous Cherry trees of Japan coming into bloom. Tourists and locals alike are snapping photos of the blossoms, the air is redolent with their soft fragrance. In a few days there will be a rain and most of these…
Men and Women do not actually speak different languages, what is different is how the message of that language is delivered. Working with different communication styles has been the journey I have been on while writing Bear and Butterfly, and I really want to share what I have learned with you. In Bear and Butterfly I break…
Believing in yourself is not the same thing as believing in your possibility, your product or your job. Believing in yourself has to do with believing in the person YOU are, the person behind the things you do. The most successful sales people are never selling a product, they are selling themselves. They are selling a…
Although Donna Summer sang this song beautifully in the 70’s, it’s not much of a credo by which to live. Have I mentioned in these blogs that words have power? Do you want to just survive, or do you want to thrive? It takes the same amount of energy to commit yourself to surviving the…
Most of us want to change our lives in one way or another; some are huge changes, some are just “tweeking,” but very few of us have everything in our lives exactly the way we have visioned. Too often we grow frustrated that said changes have not occurred, or not occurred so we can see…
Have you noticed that when you say something like “I am tired” what you feel is that you are even more tired? If you say “I am fat” all you can see about yourself is fatness? How about when you say “I am ready to go.” Your energy is higher, your outlook is brighter. “I…
Have you ever considered that when we vote we are best off coming from a place of Love? Think about it, if you love someone you do not find yourself saying “I love you because you are the lesser of two evils” or “I will love you because because I really don’t like that other…
Every city I have been in has them; those people at the end of the freeway exits, or in the parking lots asking for money. When we come to a stop we suddenly find something very important to do inside our car or stare straight ahead like a laser beam because we don’t want to…